Saturday, August 10, 2013

But I just want to (fix) help you ....

Recently I had heard the words "everyone is exactly where they need to be". What?!? Say it ain't But after my thought process kicked in (with the help of coffee), I realized the truth in that statement. Where I have difficulty is when I see people struggling in their journey and my initial instinct is to help them. This may be OCD or it could be my kind, generous heart...not really sure. I am not about to say "do not help people", but there are more subtle ways to "help". Of course the first way is to pray for them. It's easy and it doesn't take much of your time. And you do not have to be a churchgoer to pray or to be spiritual. A similar way is to send love and energy and light by visualizing it traveling from you to them. If you are a visual learner such as myself this is the way to go. Of course, another way is to show by example. By living your own authentic self, others will see this and when they are ready will make the changes they need to make. As I mentioned before, my gut instinct is to help others with their struggles. If someone is starving, you want to feed them. If they are drowning, you want to save them. But unfortunately, if they are not yet ready to be helped then you are banging your head against a wall and draining your energy supply. Even though you yourself may be a great place in your mind and heart and you want those struggling to have the same experience, you can't always change what journey they are on to learn what they need to learn. We are all here on this Earth for a different experience and someone else's path is not the same as yours even though our destination is the same. Obstacles and struggles are there for a reason. They are life's speed bumps. By trying to help someone who doesn't want the help, you have now become the obstacle in the lesson they need to learn and they may even resent you for it. So basically, do not give up on your quest to help others in need, just change how you go about it. Letting go of what isn't working is the first step. Take a few steps back, re-group your thoughts and intentions. For every person who is skeptical or unwilling to step out of their suffering, there are ten others who will be open to the love and energy you send their way. We are all a work in progress. Keep Smiling! :)

1 comment:

  1. Amen, sister. I finally realized after years of trying to change my brother that really it was me who needed to change. I needed to be more forgiving, loving and understanding -- to both of us.

    We are exactly where we need to be. And we are loved wholly, exactly as we are, if we are willing to accept it!